Setting the right goal is half the battle won. People set goals too high and then get disappointed. We should encourage setting small goals and keeping promises to ourselves. Setting stretch goals might set you up for failure. I’m not advocating to only aim small. By all means, shoot for…
Accept the System
I’m getting bored at work. It’s supposed to be boring for most people as a company is paying you for your expertise. Embrace it. Find your own challenges. Social media surfaces the highlight reel, not behind-the-scenes. Most people engage with success stories. We feel motivated by it. The algorithm simply bubbles it up. I’m not getting matches on dating apps. They are designed that way, to keep you on their platforms.
Kind over Nice
When it comes to being a good person, many of us think that being nice is the key. However, it is actually selfish. You’re doing it for yourself and not the other person. You’re too attached to things and are operating from a scarcity mindset. Avoiding conflict will hit you long-term. You’re making a bubble by hiding your true feelings by being polite and agreeable. Putting others ahead of yourself is not sustainable.
Life as an RPG
Have you ever thought about life as a role-playing game? You are the hero of your story. You have certain skills, strengths, and weaknesses. Your goals are the quests. Obstacles and challenges are the boss battles or mini-games. By overcoming them, you gain experience points to level up. The currency of life is time. It’s a finite resource, and how you spend it matters. Choose wisely. You encounter NPCs (Non-Playable Characters) in your life.
Life is a numbers game.
You talk to 100 people. Some become your friends. One becomes your best friend and changes your life. You apply to 100 job openings. You work at a bunch of places. One becomes an integral part of your identity. You try a 100 food outlets. A few become your go-tos. One blows your breath away. Detach from outcomes. Trust the process. Just start swinging.
Options make you fully free.
You set your mind on something. Anything. Unless you’re okay with it not going as per your wish, it’s hard to be objective about it. Getting too invested clouds your judgment. This is where having options help. Life’s random. Being at the right place at the right time is underrated. Be it clearing an interview or dating someone or anything else really. Ask yourself this: Is it okay if it doesn’t happen? Once you get into the abundance mindset, you’ll increase your odds of success.
You will never get to know yourself — your real preferences — unless you face options and choices. Let’s say you don’t like the pursuit of wealth creation. Do you genuinely not like it? Or are you rationalizing your inability to be good at it? This differentiation is super important. Actively choosing something while having other options in hand is how you know the true preferences. The next time someone talks about a choice they made, go deeper into the options they had. See if the grapes are actually sour.